The Positive Effects of Divorce

Most people don’t talk about the positive effects of divorce, ending a relationship and separating can change your life for the better.

1. The positive effects of divorce on your family life

A divorce can be tough on children, but an unstable home with constant conflict, arguments, and unhappiness could be worse for everyone involved. Once you have dealt with the divorce process, children often have more engaged parents who want to spend quality time with them. Even if you have shared parenting, the fact is that each parent’s time with the children is limited, so you are often more refreshed and energised to see them, creating better bonds.

Often after a divorce, the parent who had less involvement becomes more mindful of their responsibilities to their children.

Each partner will have a different child-rearing approach, and opinions on things that matter, these can lead to arguments and disagreements that can take a mental toll on everyone involved.

2. Improving your social life

You may find that you have more time than before after divorce. This is another one of the positive effects of divorce as you can take this opportunity to spend more time with friends and family whom you may not have seen in a while. Most people lose touch with old friends when they have been in a long-term relationship.

It might also be a good time to reach out to some old friends you used to be close with. Reconnecting with old friends can give you the positivity needed after a divorce, as it can be a very stressful process.

It may take some time before you can build an active social life. Revamping your social life can help you avoid the loneliness that can be experienced after the divorce.

Ideas for building a social life after a divorce:

• Allow friends and family to reach out and comfort you.
• Do not be afraid to reach out to mutual friends you and your spouse had; cutting them can be isolating.
• Pursue new interests, hobbies, and possibly a new job, which will extend your circle of friends.

3. Having complete control over your money

It is common for a couple to disagree on budget priorities, money is often one of the reasons couples fight and can be a high pain point and source of conflict.

Divorcing untangles your financial ties and can mark your financial freedom once everything is settled. With the freedom to build up savings, invest or spend and buy what you want the sense of self-responsibility can be liberating.

4. Improved Health

Being in an unhealthy relationship can lead to couples becoming complacent which can lead to unhelpful habits creeping in.  As a result, some couples end up less mentally and physically healthy then they could be.

Following a divorce, individuals are often re-invigorated and often get into better shape mentally and physically.  This is often true when getting back into the dating scene.

5. Focus on new things

One of the positive effects of divorce is that once when the dust settles, you can finally focus on working on new skills, hobbies, and achievements. It might be the perfect time to work towards your personal goals, focus on your career, or find a new hobby that brings you joy.