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Navigating the Holidays Post-Divorce: The Power of ‘No’

December 15, 2023
Be mindful of putting yourself under extra pressure these holidays post divorce or separation and saying yes to things just because you feel obliged to.
 
Learning to say ‘No’ is not just an act of self-preservation; it’s a crucial step towards reclaiming your autonomy, protecting your emotional well-being and providing space for new opportunities.
 
  1. The Pressure to Say ‘Yes’:
    The expectations and societal pressures surrounding the holiday season can be overwhelming, especially for those recently divorced. It’s essential to recognise that it’s okay not to conform to traditional norms and say ‘yes’ to every invitation or request. Instead, focus on what feels right for you during this sensitive time.
  2. Setting Boundaries:
    Divorce often comes with its own set of challenges, and the added stress of the holiday season can intensify these feelings. It’s crucial to establish clear boundaries to protect yourself emotionally. Politely decline invitations or requests that you feel would contribute to your stress levels. Your well-being should be a top priority.
  3. Embracing Self-Care:
    Learning to say ‘No’ during the holidays is an act of self-care. Understand that it’s okay to put your needs first. If you find that attending certain events or engaging in particular traditions brings more pain than joy, give yourself permission to step back. Use the time to focus on activities that bring you joy,  comfort and peace.
  4. Communicate Openly:
    If you feel comfortable, communicate openly with friends and family about your emotional state during the holiday season. Let them know that you appreciate their invitations and gestures but may need some space. True friends and understanding family members will respect your needs and provide the support you require.
  5. Reimagining Traditions:
    Divorce often brings about a need to redefine and reestablish traditions. Instead of forcing yourself to partake in activities that no longer serve you, take this opportunity to create new traditions that align with your current emotional state. It could be as simple as spending time alone or with a small group of close friends who understand and support your journey.
  6. Cultivating Self-Compassion:
    Divorce can be an emotionally draining experience, and the holidays may amplify these feelings. Be kind to yourself and recognise that it’s okay not to have all the answers. Saying ‘No’ is a powerful act of self-compassion, allowing you the time and space needed to heal and navigate the complexities of post-divorce life.
  7. Prioritising Energy:
    Divorce can be emotionally exhausting, and during the holidays, it’s crucial to prioritise your energy. Choose activities and engagements that align with your well-being and contribute positively to your healing process. Saying ‘No’ to unnecessary commitments allows you to conserve energy for the things that truly matter.
 
Learning to say ‘No’ after a divorce is can be liberating.  Embrace the freedom to set boundaries, prioritise self-care, and redefine traditions.
 
Remember that it’s okay to prioritise your well-being during this challenging time.
 
By saying ‘No’ to things that don’t serve your healing journey, you pave the way for a more peaceful and fulfilling holiday season.

Divorcing well is possible, with the right support by your side. If you would like some help navigating the process of your separation feel free to reach out to us.

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